Proverbs 5:18-19
May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer-may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.
The grass is rarely greener on the other side. Psychology Today stated that a whopping 60% of remarriages fail. And they do so even more quickly; after an average of 10 years, 37% of remarriages have dissolved versus 30% of first marriages. Solomon, the writer of the Proverbs, exhorts us to find joy and fulfillment in the wife of our youth. To find satisfaction in the marriage partner that God has provided for you.
My first line in premarital counseling is that marriage is a covenant, not a contract. A covenant is a unilateral commitment to be actively engaged in your spouse's life, for life. A contract is an "if/then" agreement that can be entered into and existed based on the performance of your spouse. Within the context of marriage, God has made full provision for our sexual and emotional fulfillment. Instead of looking for an upgrade, we need to maintain, repair, and cultivate our marriages.
Couples may or may not realize the silent ministry they have to others. Ecclesiastes 4:12 says "A cord of three strands is not quickly broken." God should be the Center of each marriage. As a couple embraces marriage as a sacred, holy gift from God AND remains willing to love and strengthen that bond, then others (both single and married) are able to view marriage as the blessing that God intended it to be.
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