Sometimes I think that I am pretty wise, but when I compare myself to the truly wise one, I am much like Agur. I am confronted that I am finite and that much is beyond my grasp. You alone O Lord are all knowing. Since you are the fount of all knowlegde, I run to you.
Proverbs 30:2-4
"I am the most ignorant of men; I do not have a man's
understanding. I have not learned wisdom, nor have I
knowledge of the Holy One. Who has gone up to
heaven and come down? Who has gathered up the
wind in the hollow of his hands? Who has wrapped up
the waters in his cloak? Who has established all the ends
of the earth? What is his name, and the name of his son?
Tell me if you know!
Friday, April 30, 2010
Thursday, April 29, 2010
Rebuke, Dishonesty, and Compassion
Proverbs 29
Doesn't it seem that some people never learn? Even after they are corrected time and time again, they continue in their stubborn rebellion. Don't envy them, for there will come a point of no return.
A man who remains stiff-necked after many rebukes will suddenly be
destroyed--without remedy. (1)
If our spouse, children, or co-workers are dishonest, make sure we are not the ones causing them to stumble by tolerating dishonesty in our affairs.
If a ruler listens to lies, all his officials become wicked. (12)
I have been staying in an inexpensive motel in Washington, D.C. I have to admit that some of the other clients are a bit sketchy. Rooming for one night, smelling of alcohol, and using colorful language. I was convicted that I didn’t have compassion for my hotel mates. Have I been away from poverty for so long that I run away from it? The Lord cares for the poor and marginalized. He taught yet once again that so should I.
The poor man and the oppressor have this in common: The
LORD gives sight to the eyes of both. If a king judges the poor
with fairness, his throne will always be secure. (13-14)
Doesn't it seem that some people never learn? Even after they are corrected time and time again, they continue in their stubborn rebellion. Don't envy them, for there will come a point of no return.
A man who remains stiff-necked after many rebukes will suddenly be
destroyed--without remedy. (1)
If our spouse, children, or co-workers are dishonest, make sure we are not the ones causing them to stumble by tolerating dishonesty in our affairs.
If a ruler listens to lies, all his officials become wicked. (12)
I have been staying in an inexpensive motel in Washington, D.C. I have to admit that some of the other clients are a bit sketchy. Rooming for one night, smelling of alcohol, and using colorful language. I was convicted that I didn’t have compassion for my hotel mates. Have I been away from poverty for so long that I run away from it? The Lord cares for the poor and marginalized. He taught yet once again that so should I.
The poor man and the oppressor have this in common: The
LORD gives sight to the eyes of both. If a king judges the poor
with fairness, his throne will always be secure. (13-14)
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Reap What You Sow
Proverbs 28:1,8,9,13,19,22,26
The wicked man flees though no one pursues, but the righteous
are as bold as a lion.
Those who have confidence in God do not need to fear man for God is their defender.
He who increases his wealth by exorbitant interest amasses it for
another, who will be kind to the poor.
Those who become wealthy on the backs of the poor, will lose it all.
If anyone turns a deaf ear to the law, even his prayers are
detestable.
Those who ignore earthly laws will find their prayers ignored as well.
He who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses
and renounces them finds mercy.
Those who are transparent and remorseful will be blessed.
He who works his land will have abundant food, but the one who
chases fantasies will have his fill of poverty.
Those who work will eat and not suffer lack or poverty.
He who trusts in himself is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom is
kept safe.
Those who are their own doctors have a fool for a patient.
The wicked man flees though no one pursues, but the righteous
are as bold as a lion.
Those who have confidence in God do not need to fear man for God is their defender.
He who increases his wealth by exorbitant interest amasses it for
another, who will be kind to the poor.
Those who become wealthy on the backs of the poor, will lose it all.
If anyone turns a deaf ear to the law, even his prayers are
detestable.
Those who ignore earthly laws will find their prayers ignored as well.
He who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses
and renounces them finds mercy.
Those who are transparent and remorseful will be blessed.
He who works his land will have abundant food, but the one who
chases fantasies will have his fill of poverty.
Those who work will eat and not suffer lack or poverty.
He who trusts in himself is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom is
kept safe.
Those who are their own doctors have a fool for a patient.
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
God Will Speak For Us
Proverbs 27:2
Let another praise you, and not your own mouth; someone else, and not
your own lips.
Bragging is ugly. I think we talk about ourselves so much because we have a need to be significant or at least to be noticed. In some cases, if you don't speak up for yourself, others may get a position or recognition that you deserve. In this proverb we all called to let others do the talking for us, believing that if we do good work, it will eventually be noticed.
You might ask, "What do I put on my resume or job application?" The truth. Many people lie or neglect to make full disclosure in fear of not getting a job. As people of wisdom we must trust that God will plead our case. We do not need to make our case; God will make it for us.
Let another praise you, and not your own mouth; someone else, and not
your own lips.
Bragging is ugly. I think we talk about ourselves so much because we have a need to be significant or at least to be noticed. In some cases, if you don't speak up for yourself, others may get a position or recognition that you deserve. In this proverb we all called to let others do the talking for us, believing that if we do good work, it will eventually be noticed.
You might ask, "What do I put on my resume or job application?" The truth. Many people lie or neglect to make full disclosure in fear of not getting a job. As people of wisdom we must trust that God will plead our case. We do not need to make our case; God will make it for us.
Monday, April 26, 2010
Who is Worse Off Than a Fool?
The fool receives the most scathing rebuke in the Proverbs 26. The fool is unfit for honor (v.1), deserves to be whipped (v.3), is impossible to have a rational conversation with (v.4-5), cannot be trusted with a message (v.6), a proverb is useless in the mouth of a fool (v.7), shouldn't be hired (v.10),and repeats his folly (v.11). The only thing on earth worst is a proud man.
The proud man receives greater condemnation because, more times than not, he is conscious of his actions and does them anyway. The fool isn't always aware of what he is doing. The proud does not listen to counsel because he thinks he is right. Humility leads to a greater hope and future.
Proverbs 26:12
Do you see a man wise in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool
than for him.
The proud man receives greater condemnation because, more times than not, he is conscious of his actions and does them anyway. The fool isn't always aware of what he is doing. The proud does not listen to counsel because he thinks he is right. Humility leads to a greater hope and future.
Proverbs 26:12
Do you see a man wise in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool
than for him.
Saturday, April 24, 2010
Fun With No Regrets
Proverbs 24:1-2, 19-20
Do not envy wicked men, do not desire their company; for their
hearts plot violence, and their lips talk about making trouble. Do
not fret because of evil men or be envious of the wicked, for the
evil man has no future hope, and the lamp of the wicked will be
snuffed out.
It may seem that the wicked are having all the fun. When I was in college, it seemed like those who did not follow God’s instructions seemed to be having all of the fun. They partied, drank, and explored their sexuality to the fullest. When it came to studying I had friends tell me that they cheated freely and had a higher GPA for their efforts.
Fortunately I found a band of friends who loved God and lived according to his precepts. We hung out until the late hours of the night enjoying each other's company without sexual frivolity. We studied together and supported each other. We had fun without regrets. We have little to be sorry for and can enjoy our memories and friendships today, almost 25 years later, freely. Obedience to God’s law today gives hope for the future.
Do not envy wicked men, do not desire their company; for their
hearts plot violence, and their lips talk about making trouble. Do
not fret because of evil men or be envious of the wicked, for the
evil man has no future hope, and the lamp of the wicked will be
snuffed out.
It may seem that the wicked are having all the fun. When I was in college, it seemed like those who did not follow God’s instructions seemed to be having all of the fun. They partied, drank, and explored their sexuality to the fullest. When it came to studying I had friends tell me that they cheated freely and had a higher GPA for their efforts.
Fortunately I found a band of friends who loved God and lived according to his precepts. We hung out until the late hours of the night enjoying each other's company without sexual frivolity. We studied together and supported each other. We had fun without regrets. We have little to be sorry for and can enjoy our memories and friendships today, almost 25 years later, freely. Obedience to God’s law today gives hope for the future.
Friday, April 23, 2010
On Good Zeal
Proverbs 23:17-18
Do not let your heart envy sinners, but always be zealous for the fear
of the LORD. There is surely a future hope for you, and your hope
will not be cut off.
Being a Christ-follower is more than just intellectual ascent to facts, it is an emotional investment as well. I have friends who have been regularly criticized for being too emotional. "Stop being so emotional." "You need to grow up and face the facts." "Prince Charming is a fairy tale." "Be a man, stop being so sensitive." The message is that grown-ups are realists and emotions are secondary at best. When life-decisions have to be made, the intellect is what really is important.
Yet in this proverb we are called to be zealous - "to love God with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength." Emotions are not the problem, it is what they are attached to that can benefit or hurt us. When we expend our emotional energy on what is important to God, we find a future and a hope. When we invest our heart into things that are not substantial, our hope fritters away.
Be zealous for God, he will not disappoint you.
Do not let your heart envy sinners, but always be zealous for the fear
of the LORD. There is surely a future hope for you, and your hope
will not be cut off.
Being a Christ-follower is more than just intellectual ascent to facts, it is an emotional investment as well. I have friends who have been regularly criticized for being too emotional. "Stop being so emotional." "You need to grow up and face the facts." "Prince Charming is a fairy tale." "Be a man, stop being so sensitive." The message is that grown-ups are realists and emotions are secondary at best. When life-decisions have to be made, the intellect is what really is important.
Yet in this proverb we are called to be zealous - "to love God with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength." Emotions are not the problem, it is what they are attached to that can benefit or hurt us. When we expend our emotional energy on what is important to God, we find a future and a hope. When we invest our heart into things that are not substantial, our hope fritters away.
Be zealous for God, he will not disappoint you.
Thursday, April 22, 2010
When Is It Time to Cut Someone Off?
Proverbs 22:10
Drive out the mocker, and out goes strife; quarrels and insults are
ended.
One of the most difficult things to do is to determine when it is time to cut-off a conversation. We are taught to never give up on people. So we try to reason, persuade, and encourage a difficult person. But when does a person cease to have a temporary difficulty and become a mocker?
I am not sure, but when a person is no longer listening to others, but merely speaking to be heard or has little regard for the contributions of others, the line has been crossed. Mockers cannot be convinced. They are often stuck in their ways. The most loving thing to do for the mocker and those whom are impacted by him is to drive him out for the betterment of the group. A mocker may need to find a community where he is willing to listen to others. But when a mocker is removed from a group, it is addition by subtraction.
Drive out the mocker, and out goes strife; quarrels and insults are
ended.
One of the most difficult things to do is to determine when it is time to cut-off a conversation. We are taught to never give up on people. So we try to reason, persuade, and encourage a difficult person. But when does a person cease to have a temporary difficulty and become a mocker?
I am not sure, but when a person is no longer listening to others, but merely speaking to be heard or has little regard for the contributions of others, the line has been crossed. Mockers cannot be convinced. They are often stuck in their ways. The most loving thing to do for the mocker and those whom are impacted by him is to drive him out for the betterment of the group. A mocker may need to find a community where he is willing to listen to others. But when a mocker is removed from a group, it is addition by subtraction.
Wednesday, April 21, 2010
The process belongs to us; the outcome belongs to the Lord
Proverbs 21:31
The horse is made ready for the day of battle, but victory rests with the
LORD.
One of my favorite sayings is that "The process belongs to us; the outcome belongs to the Lord." We are told to make every provision for battle, but we know that it is not our preparation or skill that brings victory. It is the Lord bringing life to our efforts and dreams who makes all the difference.
It is good to remember that when parenting, making a sales call, or preparing for our future, we are not ultimately responsible for the fruit of our labor. The alternative to trusting God is worry, despair, and resignation. Many have given up on doing well because they cannot see the results they desire. This proverb calls us to rest secure in the Lord's victory while we do the right thing.
The horse is made ready for the day of battle, but victory rests with the
LORD.
One of my favorite sayings is that "The process belongs to us; the outcome belongs to the Lord." We are told to make every provision for battle, but we know that it is not our preparation or skill that brings victory. It is the Lord bringing life to our efforts and dreams who makes all the difference.
It is good to remember that when parenting, making a sales call, or preparing for our future, we are not ultimately responsible for the fruit of our labor. The alternative to trusting God is worry, despair, and resignation. Many have given up on doing well because they cannot see the results they desire. This proverb calls us to rest secure in the Lord's victory while we do the right thing.
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
Mega Jackpot Money
Proverbs 20:21
An inheritance quickly gained at the beginning will not be blessed at
the end.
Reference:
Torre, Pablo S. (2009). "How (and Why) Athletes Go Broke". Retrieved on April 20, 2010 from
http://sportsillustrated.cnn.com/vault/article/magazine/MAG1153364/1/index.htm
An inheritance quickly gained at the beginning will not be blessed at
the end.
- By the time they have been retired for two years, 78% of former NFL players have gone bankrupt or are under financial stress because of joblessness or divorce.
- Within five years of retirement, an estimated 60% of former NBA players are broke.
- Numerous retired MLB players have been similarly ruined.
- Consistent work provides for the future. v.4
- Honesty in business dealings is important. v.20,23
- Laziness brings poverty. v.13
- Good advice is critical. v.18
Reference:
Torre, Pablo S. (2009). "How (and Why) Athletes Go Broke". Retrieved on April 20, 2010 from
http://sportsillustrated.cnn.com/vault/article/magazine/MAG1153364/1/index.htm
Friday, April 16, 2010
Plan, Pray, Please, and Peace
Proverbs 16:1-3,7
To man belong the plans of the heart, but from the LORD comes the
reply of the tongue. All a man's ways seem innocent to him, but
motives are weighed by the LORD. Commit to the LORD whatever
you do, and your plans will succeed...When a man's ways are pleasing
to the LORD, he makes even his enemies live at peace with him.
When Nancy and I decided to get married, not everyone was in agreement. Many thought that it was too soon, we met in May and married in December of the same year. Others felt we needed extensive pr-marital counseling before marriage. I have to admit that we sometimes say to each other, "did we actually get married that quickly?" As we were thinking about the objections being raised, these verses came to us. We found comfort in the knowledge that if we put our plans before God; he would make our plans succeed. God would even deal with our detractors as long as our ways were pleasing in his sight.
We can dream as long as we submit all things to him. When we walk in him, he will send peace around us.
To man belong the plans of the heart, but from the LORD comes the
reply of the tongue. All a man's ways seem innocent to him, but
motives are weighed by the LORD. Commit to the LORD whatever
you do, and your plans will succeed...When a man's ways are pleasing
to the LORD, he makes even his enemies live at peace with him.
When Nancy and I decided to get married, not everyone was in agreement. Many thought that it was too soon, we met in May and married in December of the same year. Others felt we needed extensive pr-marital counseling before marriage. I have to admit that we sometimes say to each other, "did we actually get married that quickly?" As we were thinking about the objections being raised, these verses came to us. We found comfort in the knowledge that if we put our plans before God; he would make our plans succeed. God would even deal with our detractors as long as our ways were pleasing in his sight.
We can dream as long as we submit all things to him. When we walk in him, he will send peace around us.
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Think Before You Speak
Proverbs 15
Speaking the truth in love avoids conflict before it starts
1. A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up
anger.
The right word at the right time brings healing and life to the listener
4 The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life, but a deceitful
tongue crushes the spirit.
7 The lips of the wise spread knowledge; not so the hearts of
fools.
23 A man finds joy in giving an apt reply--and how good is a
timely word!
Garbage in, garbage out. If we feed on knowledge we get discernment, if we feed on foll, we become fools
14 The discerning heart seeks knowledge, but the mouth of a fool
feeds on folly.
Are things more peaceful or less peaceful when I am around?
18 A hot-tempered man stirs up dissension, but a patient man
calms a quarrel.
Careful deliberation may move things slower than we want, but they ensure that we come to principled decisions
28 The heart of the righteous weighs its answers, but the mouth
of the wicked gushes evil.
Speaking the truth in love avoids conflict before it starts
1. A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up
anger.
The right word at the right time brings healing and life to the listener
4 The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life, but a deceitful
tongue crushes the spirit.
7 The lips of the wise spread knowledge; not so the hearts of
fools.
23 A man finds joy in giving an apt reply--and how good is a
timely word!
Garbage in, garbage out. If we feed on knowledge we get discernment, if we feed on foll, we become fools
14 The discerning heart seeks knowledge, but the mouth of a fool
feeds on folly.
Are things more peaceful or less peaceful when I am around?
18 A hot-tempered man stirs up dissension, but a patient man
calms a quarrel.
Careful deliberation may move things slower than we want, but they ensure that we come to principled decisions
28 The heart of the righteous weighs its answers, but the mouth
of the wicked gushes evil.
Wednesday, April 14, 2010
Our Children's Inheritance
Proverbs 14:26
He who fears the LORD has a secure fortress, and for his children it
will be a refuge.
I often think about the inheritance that I am going to leave for my children. I wonder if what I accumulate in this life will be enough to help them or their grandchildren get a good start in life. If you ever talk to a financial planner, they usually make you believe that you do not have nearly enough to retire, nor to leave anything worthwhile to your children. I am happy for this proverb; it points us to the greatest gift we can give to our children. If we fear the Lord and rest secure in his fortress battered by life's storms, our children will look at our example and take refuge in him as well when they face their own difficulties.
This does not mean we have to be perfect parents or that would take me out of the running already! But, our children should see us constantly running to God for support and encouragement. Our security in God is the best inheritance we can leave our children.
He who fears the LORD has a secure fortress, and for his children it
will be a refuge.
I often think about the inheritance that I am going to leave for my children. I wonder if what I accumulate in this life will be enough to help them or their grandchildren get a good start in life. If you ever talk to a financial planner, they usually make you believe that you do not have nearly enough to retire, nor to leave anything worthwhile to your children. I am happy for this proverb; it points us to the greatest gift we can give to our children. If we fear the Lord and rest secure in his fortress battered by life's storms, our children will look at our example and take refuge in him as well when they face their own difficulties.
This does not mean we have to be perfect parents or that would take me out of the running already! But, our children should see us constantly running to God for support and encouragement. Our security in God is the best inheritance we can leave our children.
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
Listening Leadership
Why is it so hard to get advice? Is it our pride? Are we moving too fast? We know that good advice can save money, a reputation, and in some cases a life. As I read these words, they challenge the independent ways I do things. I have been the recipient of wise counsel lately. My job as a leader is greatly enhanced when I listen to the counsel around me.
May we listen and learn from these words in Proverbs 13
1 A wise son heeds his father's instruction, but a mocker does not listen to
rebuke.
10 Pride only breeds quarrels, but wisdom is found in those who take
advice.
13 He who scorns instruction will pay for it, but he who respects a
command is rewarded.
14 The teaching of the wise is a fountain of life, turning a man from the
snares of death.
15 Good understanding wins favor, but the way of the unfaithful is hard.
16 Every prudent man acts out of knowledge, but a fool exposes his folly.
20 He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm.
May we listen and learn from these words in Proverbs 13
1 A wise son heeds his father's instruction, but a mocker does not listen to
rebuke.
10 Pride only breeds quarrels, but wisdom is found in those who take
advice.
13 He who scorns instruction will pay for it, but he who respects a
command is rewarded.
14 The teaching of the wise is a fountain of life, turning a man from the
snares of death.
15 Good understanding wins favor, but the way of the unfaithful is hard.
16 Every prudent man acts out of knowledge, but a fool exposes his folly.
20 He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm.
Marrying Above Yourself
Proverbs 12:4
A wife of noble character is her husband's crown, but a disgraceful
wife is like decay in his bones.
A seminary professor told me that most ministers "marry above themselves". I believed him 20 years ago and I believe him now. The choice of marriage partner is one of the most important decisions you will ever make. I live in a house with five teenagers who fall in and out of love on a routine basis. Trying to steer in the right direction in relationships is a daunting and exhausting endeavor. The latest line has been on the difference between "attraction" and "action".
I have been telling my kids that you cannot control who you are attracted to, but you can control your actions. Beyond attraction we must look for "noble character" in the person we give our heart away to. Does the person exhibit and demonstrate actions consistent with the character of Christ? Is the person kind to others, especially to those that cannnot benefit them? Does he/she have a goof work ethic?
When looking for a mate, the best indicator is the person's current character. Our choice of spouse will build strength or cause decay.
A wife of noble character is her husband's crown, but a disgraceful
wife is like decay in his bones.
A seminary professor told me that most ministers "marry above themselves". I believed him 20 years ago and I believe him now. The choice of marriage partner is one of the most important decisions you will ever make. I live in a house with five teenagers who fall in and out of love on a routine basis. Trying to steer in the right direction in relationships is a daunting and exhausting endeavor. The latest line has been on the difference between "attraction" and "action".
I have been telling my kids that you cannot control who you are attracted to, but you can control your actions. Beyond attraction we must look for "noble character" in the person we give our heart away to. Does the person exhibit and demonstrate actions consistent with the character of Christ? Is the person kind to others, especially to those that cannnot benefit them? Does he/she have a goof work ethic?
When looking for a mate, the best indicator is the person's current character. Our choice of spouse will build strength or cause decay.
Sunday, April 11, 2010
A Living Legacy
Proverbs 11:7
When a wicked man dies, his hope perishes; all he expected from his
power comes to nothing.
The wicked are often lonely; they do not take many people into their confidence. The wicked look over their shoulder; they keep their deeds out of the sight of others. They fear someone will "steal" their ideas or may turn them in to the authorities. Not so the righteous. The righteous live an open, inviting life. The righteous want others to benefit from whatever they are doing and encourage people to collaborate with them. The righteous have nothing to fear, for their deeds are legitimate and above reproach.
The hope of the wicked perishes with them. The hope of the righteous lives on through the people they invest in.
When a wicked man dies, his hope perishes; all he expected from his
power comes to nothing.
The wicked are often lonely; they do not take many people into their confidence. The wicked look over their shoulder; they keep their deeds out of the sight of others. They fear someone will "steal" their ideas or may turn them in to the authorities. Not so the righteous. The righteous live an open, inviting life. The righteous want others to benefit from whatever they are doing and encourage people to collaborate with them. The righteous have nothing to fear, for their deeds are legitimate and above reproach.
The hope of the wicked perishes with them. The hope of the righteous lives on through the people they invest in.
Saturday, April 10, 2010
Outgrowing God?
Proverbs 10:8
The wise in heart accept commands, but a chattering fool comes to
ruin.
A friend said to me that he do not want to get baptized because he do not like the ideas of anyone telling him what to do. He liked God, but was wary of the ultimate act of submission via baptism, which in his mind would signify that God, not himself was in charge of his life. With increases in knowledge, some people believe that they are the final arbiter of right and wrong. We somehow think that having someone outside of ourselves as our leader is out date and has passed since we have "outgrown" our pre-modern understanding of the universe illustrated by this chart.
Age Time Period Decision-Maker
Pre-modern Prior to 1789 Deity
Modern 1789-1989 Reason
Post-modern 1989-Present The Individual
The writer of Proverbs reminds us that accepting God's commands is wise and the path to avoid foolish chatter. We can't outgrow God.
The wise in heart accept commands, but a chattering fool comes to
ruin.
A friend said to me that he do not want to get baptized because he do not like the ideas of anyone telling him what to do. He liked God, but was wary of the ultimate act of submission via baptism, which in his mind would signify that God, not himself was in charge of his life. With increases in knowledge, some people believe that they are the final arbiter of right and wrong. We somehow think that having someone outside of ourselves as our leader is out date and has passed since we have "outgrown" our pre-modern understanding of the universe illustrated by this chart.
Age Time Period Decision-Maker
Pre-modern Prior to 1789 Deity
Modern 1789-1989 Reason
Post-modern 1989-Present The Individual
The writer of Proverbs reminds us that accepting God's commands is wise and the path to avoid foolish chatter. We can't outgrow God.
Less is More
"He who conceals his hatred has lying lips, and whoever spreads slander is a fool. When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise."
(Proverbs 10:18-19)
Less is more.
Over ninety percent of communication is non-verbal, yet it's interesting to note that most conflicts seem to occur over something that is said.
"An offended brother is more unyielding than a fortified city, and disputes are like the barred gates of a citadel." (Proverbs 18:19)
The more we talk following a disagreement or difference of opinion, the deeper the hole we dig for ourselves with our loved one, friend or in some cases an enemy. Too many words may seem hypocritical, insincere or may even be perceived as an admission of guilt.
Our lives speak louder than our words.
Silence is wisdom.
Enough said.
(Proverbs 10:18-19)
Less is more.
Over ninety percent of communication is non-verbal, yet it's interesting to note that most conflicts seem to occur over something that is said.
"An offended brother is more unyielding than a fortified city, and disputes are like the barred gates of a citadel." (Proverbs 18:19)
The more we talk following a disagreement or difference of opinion, the deeper the hole we dig for ourselves with our loved one, friend or in some cases an enemy. Too many words may seem hypocritical, insincere or may even be perceived as an admission of guilt.
Our lives speak louder than our words.
Silence is wisdom.
Enough said.
Friday, April 9, 2010
Wisdom or Folly, Blessing or Curse: The Choice is Ours
Proverbs 9:4&16
"Let all who are simple come in here!" she says to those who
lack judgment.
Wisdom and folly can be found on every street corner in our urban centers. Wisdom and folly faithfully make their appeals to those who are simple and lack judgment. Lady wisdom leads to life, lady folly to death. When all is said, we have a choice. It reminds me of the words of God to the Israelites as he reaffirms his covenant with them.
Deuteronomy 28:1-2,15
If you fully obey the LORD your God and carefully follow all
his commands I give you today, the LORD your God will set
you high above all the nations on earth. All these blessings will
come upon you and accompany you if you obey the LORD
your God...However, if you do not obey the LORD your God
and do not carefully follow all his commands and decrees I am
giving you today, all these curses will come upon you and overtake
you:
God has set two paths before us. Wisdom or folly, blessing or curse. The choice is ours and so are the consequences.
"Let all who are simple come in here!" she says to those who
lack judgment.
Wisdom and folly can be found on every street corner in our urban centers. Wisdom and folly faithfully make their appeals to those who are simple and lack judgment. Lady wisdom leads to life, lady folly to death. When all is said, we have a choice. It reminds me of the words of God to the Israelites as he reaffirms his covenant with them.
Deuteronomy 28:1-2,15
If you fully obey the LORD your God and carefully follow all
his commands I give you today, the LORD your God will set
you high above all the nations on earth. All these blessings will
come upon you and accompany you if you obey the LORD
your God...However, if you do not obey the LORD your God
and do not carefully follow all his commands and decrees I am
giving you today, all these curses will come upon you and overtake
you:
God has set two paths before us. Wisdom or folly, blessing or curse. The choice is ours and so are the consequences.
Thursday, April 8, 2010
Am I Listening?
Proverbs 8:33
"Listen to my instruction and be wise; do not ignore it."
As a parent I am aware that there is a difference between hearing and listening, and so I have learned to ask two basic questions.
(1) "Did you hear me?" -- This allows me to inquire whether or not my words were perceived by ears other than my own. There are times when I don't receive a response to my instruction, and it's simply because it was not heard. Perhaps I was speaking softly or the hearer was in another room.
(2) "Are you listening?" -- I tend to ask this question when the hearer who is in ear shot, is somewhat engaged, but may also appear distracted or disinterested.
Recently, I received a taste of my own medicine when my enthusiastic preteen began a very detailed sports-related discussion that I found difficult to follow. When my disconnection from the conversation was detected, I was asked "Mama, are you listening?" Humbly and lovingly, I apologized . . . and since then have made a real effort to demonstrate active listening skills whenever that topic is re-introduced -- out of love and respect for my child.
Today as I read Proverbs Chapter 8, I asked myself "I'm within ear shot, but am I listening to my Father?" Verse 33 commands me to give the Word my full attention and to obey. When I am listening, I am engaged and motivated to action. I am willing to make the choice to stay plugged in and to respond to what is being said because I love, respect and trust the One who is speaking to me.
"Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says."
(James 1:22)
Are YOU listening?
"Listen to my instruction and be wise; do not ignore it."
As a parent I am aware that there is a difference between hearing and listening, and so I have learned to ask two basic questions.
(1) "Did you hear me?" -- This allows me to inquire whether or not my words were perceived by ears other than my own. There are times when I don't receive a response to my instruction, and it's simply because it was not heard. Perhaps I was speaking softly or the hearer was in another room.
(2) "Are you listening?" -- I tend to ask this question when the hearer who is in ear shot, is somewhat engaged, but may also appear distracted or disinterested.
Recently, I received a taste of my own medicine when my enthusiastic preteen began a very detailed sports-related discussion that I found difficult to follow. When my disconnection from the conversation was detected, I was asked "Mama, are you listening?" Humbly and lovingly, I apologized . . . and since then have made a real effort to demonstrate active listening skills whenever that topic is re-introduced -- out of love and respect for my child.
Today as I read Proverbs Chapter 8, I asked myself "I'm within ear shot, but am I listening to my Father?" Verse 33 commands me to give the Word my full attention and to obey. When I am listening, I am engaged and motivated to action. I am willing to make the choice to stay plugged in and to respond to what is being said because I love, respect and trust the One who is speaking to me.
"Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says."
(James 1:22)
Are YOU listening?
What Do You Seek?
Proverb 8:34-35
Blessed is the man who listens to me, watching daily at my doors,
waiting at my doorway. For whoever finds me finds life and receives
favor from the LORD.
Wisdom is to be sought after. In the Rule of Saint Benedict a guide to monastic living, those seeking to enter the monastery had to prove their earnestness before being allowed to enter. Chapter 58 gives the following guidelines:
Do not grant newcomers to the monastic life an easy entry, but, as
the Apostle says, Test the spirits to see if they are from God
(1 John 4:1). Therefore, if someone comes and keeps knocking at
the door, and if at the end of four or five days he has shown himself
patient in bearing his harsh treatment and difficulty of entry, and
has persisted in his request, then he should be allowed to enter and
stay in the guest quarters for a few days. After that, he should live
in the novitiate, where the novices study, eat and sleep.
Like the persistent widow in Luke 18, we must give ourselves no rest until we get a blessing that wisdom promises.
Blessed is the man who listens to me, watching daily at my doors,
waiting at my doorway. For whoever finds me finds life and receives
favor from the LORD.
Wisdom is to be sought after. In the Rule of Saint Benedict a guide to monastic living, those seeking to enter the monastery had to prove their earnestness before being allowed to enter. Chapter 58 gives the following guidelines:
Do not grant newcomers to the monastic life an easy entry, but, as
the Apostle says, Test the spirits to see if they are from God
(1 John 4:1). Therefore, if someone comes and keeps knocking at
the door, and if at the end of four or five days he has shown himself
patient in bearing his harsh treatment and difficulty of entry, and
has persisted in his request, then he should be allowed to enter and
stay in the guest quarters for a few days. After that, he should live
in the novitiate, where the novices study, eat and sleep.
Like the persistent widow in Luke 18, we must give ourselves no rest until we get a blessing that wisdom promises.
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
The Anatomy of Sin Exposed
Proverbs 7:8
He was going down the street near her corner, walking along in the
direction of her house...
When does sin become sin? This proverb recounts the saga of a young man foolishly wandering in the vicinity of a known adulteress. Sure enough, the young man is captivated by the advances of the wayward woman and gives in to her invitation to his own ruin.
Proverbs 7:22-23
All at once he followed her like an ox going to the slaughter, like a
deer stepping into a noose till an arrow pierces his liver, like a bird
darting into a snare, little knowing it will cost him his life.
In the book of James 1:13-15, the anatomy of sin is exposed. Sin starts with our thoughts. The thoughts we harbor are like an embryo that grows inside of us. As we nurture our evil desires, they are given birth. Once born, our evil desires continue to grow until they are fully developed into sinful patterns that lead us away from God into sin.
This is why Solomon urges his son to desire wisdom rather than folly. It is a matter of life and death.
He was going down the street near her corner, walking along in the
direction of her house...
When does sin become sin? This proverb recounts the saga of a young man foolishly wandering in the vicinity of a known adulteress. Sure enough, the young man is captivated by the advances of the wayward woman and gives in to her invitation to his own ruin.
Proverbs 7:22-23
All at once he followed her like an ox going to the slaughter, like a
deer stepping into a noose till an arrow pierces his liver, like a bird
darting into a snare, little knowing it will cost him his life.
In the book of James 1:13-15, the anatomy of sin is exposed. Sin starts with our thoughts. The thoughts we harbor are like an embryo that grows inside of us. As we nurture our evil desires, they are given birth. Once born, our evil desires continue to grow until they are fully developed into sinful patterns that lead us away from God into sin.
This is why Solomon urges his son to desire wisdom rather than folly. It is a matter of life and death.
Tuesday, April 6, 2010
When Sleep Is Not Sweet
How long will you lie there, you sluggard? When will you get up from your sleep?
A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest --
and poverty will come on you like a bandit and scarcity like an armed man.
(Proverbs 6:9-11)
These verses warn us of the consequences of laziness.
According to the United States Department of Labor/ Bureau of Labor Statistics website, the unemployment rate in the U.S. was 9.7% in March 2010 -- up from 8.6% in March 2009.
Periods of short- or long-term unemployment should not translate into extended stay-cations. Instead, they may be viewed as opportunities to temporarily increase acts of service and ministry at home, in the church and in the community.
More importantly, during periods of unemployment, people have the opportunity to draw closer to God . . . The True Source!
A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest --
and poverty will come on you like a bandit and scarcity like an armed man.
(Proverbs 6:9-11)
These verses warn us of the consequences of laziness.
According to the United States Department of Labor/ Bureau of Labor Statistics website, the unemployment rate in the U.S. was 9.7% in March 2010 -- up from 8.6% in March 2009.
Periods of short- or long-term unemployment should not translate into extended stay-cations. Instead, they may be viewed as opportunities to temporarily increase acts of service and ministry at home, in the church and in the community.
More importantly, during periods of unemployment, people have the opportunity to draw closer to God . . . The True Source!
First Who Then What
Proverbs 6:6-8
Go to the ant, you sluggard; consider its ways and be wise! It has no
commander, no overseer or ruler, yet it stores its provisions in
summer and gathers its food at harvest.
Self-directed and autonomous workers are praised in this proverb. In the work setting, you look for people who will take initiative to accomplish their job without having to be prodded by a boss. If an employee or volunteer has to be reminded to do their job, then perhaps they are the wrong hire. Success at home, work, and play is determined by surrounding yourself with people with the skill and motivation to accomplish the task set before them. To build a high performing team, we must look at who before what.
In his book Good to Great, Jim Collins articulates the First Who principle on developing high performance teams. It has four primary components:
1) Get the right people on the bus.
2) Get the right people in the right seats.
3) Get the wrong people off the bus.
4) Put who before what.
When making decisions, we must observe someone's character, their work ethic, in addition to whatever talents they may have.
Go to the ant, you sluggard; consider its ways and be wise! It has no
commander, no overseer or ruler, yet it stores its provisions in
summer and gathers its food at harvest.
Self-directed and autonomous workers are praised in this proverb. In the work setting, you look for people who will take initiative to accomplish their job without having to be prodded by a boss. If an employee or volunteer has to be reminded to do their job, then perhaps they are the wrong hire. Success at home, work, and play is determined by surrounding yourself with people with the skill and motivation to accomplish the task set before them. To build a high performing team, we must look at who before what.
In his book Good to Great, Jim Collins articulates the First Who principle on developing high performance teams. It has four primary components:
1) Get the right people on the bus.
2) Get the right people in the right seats.
3) Get the wrong people off the bus.
4) Put who before what.
When making decisions, we must observe someone's character, their work ethic, in addition to whatever talents they may have.
Monday, April 5, 2010
A Seared Conscience
Proverbs 5:6
She gives no thought to the way of life; her paths are crooked, but
she knows it not.
The writer to the Proverbs warns his son to watch out for an adulteress woman. The biggest danger of someone who lives in premeditated sin is that they become calloused to their activities or develop a seared conscious Charles Finney, a prominent preacher and professor delivered a lecture on the seared conscious. He commented that "A seared conscience may be general or particular; that is, the mind may become generally insensible to moral obligation and the ill desert of sin; or this insensibility may be confined to particular sins."
After much misuse, the human mind can become immune to right and wrong. The writer warns his son that relations with such a person is dangerous. They have been so trained in doing wrong that they will do wrong and not realize it. We all must guard against our own blind spots and pockets of sin that we allow to live alongside our profession of faith in God. We must root out evil before it becomes normal in our lives.
She gives no thought to the way of life; her paths are crooked, but
she knows it not.
The writer to the Proverbs warns his son to watch out for an adulteress woman. The biggest danger of someone who lives in premeditated sin is that they become calloused to their activities or develop a seared conscious Charles Finney, a prominent preacher and professor delivered a lecture on the seared conscious. He commented that "A seared conscience may be general or particular; that is, the mind may become generally insensible to moral obligation and the ill desert of sin; or this insensibility may be confined to particular sins."
After much misuse, the human mind can become immune to right and wrong. The writer warns his son that relations with such a person is dangerous. They have been so trained in doing wrong that they will do wrong and not realize it. We all must guard against our own blind spots and pockets of sin that we allow to live alongside our profession of faith in God. We must root out evil before it becomes normal in our lives.
Sunday, April 4, 2010
Talk to Your Kids
Proverbs 4:1-4
Listen, my sons, to a father's instruction; pay attention and gain
understanding. I give you sound learning, so do not forsake my
teaching. When I was a boy in my father's house, still tender, and
an only child of my mother, he taught me and said,
"Lay hold of my words with all your heart; keep my commands
and you will live...
As a parent one of my favorite things to do is talk to my kids about life. After our Sunday evening gathering time to discuss the sermon of the day (which can be a bit threatening for a child since I am their preacher as well as father), one of the children starting asking all sorts of questions. We went from discussing evolution to homosexuality, to same-sex attraction and a few other topics. In this wide-ranging, free-for-all discussion my greatest desire was to communicate scriptural words of wisdom that my children could live by. I pray that they will lay hold of my words and keep God's commandments and live.
Listen, my sons, to a father's instruction; pay attention and gain
understanding. I give you sound learning, so do not forsake my
teaching. When I was a boy in my father's house, still tender, and
an only child of my mother, he taught me and said,
"Lay hold of my words with all your heart; keep my commands
and you will live...
As a parent one of my favorite things to do is talk to my kids about life. After our Sunday evening gathering time to discuss the sermon of the day (which can be a bit threatening for a child since I am their preacher as well as father), one of the children starting asking all sorts of questions. We went from discussing evolution to homosexuality, to same-sex attraction and a few other topics. In this wide-ranging, free-for-all discussion my greatest desire was to communicate scriptural words of wisdom that my children could live by. I pray that they will lay hold of my words and keep God's commandments and live.
Saturday, April 3, 2010
Discipline and Delight
Proverbs 3:11-12
My son, do not despise the LORD's discipline and do not resent his
rebuke, because the LORD disciplines those he loves, as a
father the son he delights in.
I only fight with people I love and with whom I have a long-term relationship. A fight should only be lavished upon those you love and delight in. I have ten children in my home. You can imagine the opportunities for confrontation. A part of me wants to lighten up and sometimes give up. What keeps me going is the fact that God has put each member in my household and I love them. In fact, my love gives me strength to fight.
How much more the love of God for us; He made us, loved us, and stayed with us even when we turned our back on him. He loved us so much that he allowed his Son to die a painful death as a payment for our sin so that we can feel the warmth of his embrace. He disciplines us because he delights in us. The next time we feel the hand of God upon us, smile, he delights in us enough to discipline us.
My son, do not despise the LORD's discipline and do not resent his
rebuke, because the LORD disciplines those he loves, as a
father the son he delights in.
I only fight with people I love and with whom I have a long-term relationship. A fight should only be lavished upon those you love and delight in. I have ten children in my home. You can imagine the opportunities for confrontation. A part of me wants to lighten up and sometimes give up. What keeps me going is the fact that God has put each member in my household and I love them. In fact, my love gives me strength to fight.
How much more the love of God for us; He made us, loved us, and stayed with us even when we turned our back on him. He loved us so much that he allowed his Son to die a painful death as a payment for our sin so that we can feel the warmth of his embrace. He disciplines us because he delights in us. The next time we feel the hand of God upon us, smile, he delights in us enough to discipline us.
Friday, April 2, 2010
The Fear and Knowledge of God Brings...
Proverbs 2:1-5
My son, if you accept my words and store up my commands within you,
turning your ear to wisdom and applying your heart to understanding,
and if you call out for insight and cry aloud for understanding, and if you
look for it as for silver and search for it as for hidden treasure, then
you will understand the fear of the LORD and find the knowledge of
God.
The fear and knowledge of God brings...
wisdom - v. 6
understanding - v. 6
victory in store for the upright - v.7
a shield to those whose walk is blameless - v.7
protection - v.8
understanding what is right and just and fair
every good path - v.9
knowledge will be pleasant to your soul - v.10
discretion - v.11
salvation from the ways of wicked men - v.12
I am grateful for the words of God which guide and direct us. If we would only cry out and search for God in all that we do, we will find pleasantness in life.
My son, if you accept my words and store up my commands within you,
turning your ear to wisdom and applying your heart to understanding,
and if you call out for insight and cry aloud for understanding, and if you
look for it as for silver and search for it as for hidden treasure, then
you will understand the fear of the LORD and find the knowledge of
God.
The fear and knowledge of God brings...
wisdom - v. 6
understanding - v. 6
victory in store for the upright - v.7
a shield to those whose walk is blameless - v.7
protection - v.8
understanding what is right and just and fair
every good path - v.9
knowledge will be pleasant to your soul - v.10
discretion - v.11
salvation from the ways of wicked men - v.12
I am grateful for the words of God which guide and direct us. If we would only cry out and search for God in all that we do, we will find pleasantness in life.
Thursday, April 1, 2010
Don't Miss The Obvious
Proverbs 1:10-16
My son, if sinners entice you, do not give in to them. If they say,
"Come along with us; let's lie in wait for someone's blood, let's
waylay some harmless soul; let's swallow them alive, like the grave,
and whole, like those who go down to the pit; we will get all sorts of
valuable things and fill our houses with plunder; throw in your lot
with us, and we will share a common purse"- my son, do not go along
with them, do not set foot on their paths; for their feet rush into
sin, they are swift to shed blood.
I heard a great quote from a movie that I have not seen. One of the characters said The greatest trick the Devil ever pulled was convincing the world he didn't exist. And like that, poof. He's gone. It is often difficult to believe that blatant evil exists in the world. But when you look at corporate scandals, ponzi schemes, lotteries, and scam artists, the evidence is overwhelming. When reading this proverb we think "C'mon, sin isn't that obvious". Sin is usually obvious, we must resist external and internal pressures to go along with the crowd.
My son, if sinners entice you, do not give in to them. If they say,
"Come along with us; let's lie in wait for someone's blood, let's
waylay some harmless soul; let's swallow them alive, like the grave,
and whole, like those who go down to the pit; we will get all sorts of
valuable things and fill our houses with plunder; throw in your lot
with us, and we will share a common purse"- my son, do not go along
with them, do not set foot on their paths; for their feet rush into
sin, they are swift to shed blood.
I heard a great quote from a movie that I have not seen. One of the characters said The greatest trick the Devil ever pulled was convincing the world he didn't exist. And like that, poof. He's gone. It is often difficult to believe that blatant evil exists in the world. But when you look at corporate scandals, ponzi schemes, lotteries, and scam artists, the evidence is overwhelming. When reading this proverb we think "C'mon, sin isn't that obvious". Sin is usually obvious, we must resist external and internal pressures to go along with the crowd.
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